Don’t just
think outside the box this summer…
Think like
there is no box.
Ease your
worried mind by tuning out the excess noise in your head for a little
while every day. It’s summertime after all, and there’s no reason not to
take your mind off (the wrong) things and find a little extra peace.
You know how
you always turn down the volume on the radio when you need to a moment
to think clearly?
The same is
true for your life in general. The noise you need to cut out first?
That’s the mental noise you hear all too often—the busy, worried
thoughts screaming over your sanity.
Turning down
the radio refocuses your mind and offers you peace and clarity when you
need it most. You don’t really think about how or why this makes such a
huge difference, you just know that it does.
Now it’s time
to apply this same strategy to all the other noise in your life,
starting with the noise in your head. And although it’s not quite as
easy as spinning the radio’s volume dial, the good news is you can quiet
your mind and train it to think more peacefully and rationally simply by
reminding yourself to do so every day.
The best tool
for the job this summer?
Daily
Journaling…
It’s just a
simple practice of self-reflection that keeps you on track by keeping
peaceful, productive thoughts at the top of your mind, even when life
gets noisy.
I’ve said it
before and I’ll say it again, if you want to get somewhere in life, you
need a map, and your journal is that map. You can write down what you
did today, what you tried to accomplish, where you made mistakes, and so
much more. It’s a place to reflect. It’s a place to capture important
thoughts and eliminate the rest. It’s a place to sort out where you’ve
been and where you intend to go. And it’s one of the most underused, yet
incredibly effective tools available to the masses.
If you’re
interested in getting started with journaling this summer, or if you’d
like some fresh ideas for your current journaling practice, I’ve listed
40 journaling prompts below that I’m personally using this summer to
take my mind off things and nudge myself into a calmer state of being.
They will bring awareness to the nagging subconscious beliefs and
assumptions you have. And they will help you filter out the noise, be
more present, and make better decisions.
Challenge
yourself to read and write on each prompt for at least ten minutes every
day for the next 40 days, and then simply start over again—keep going
until the end of summer. See how doing so gradually changes how you
think, feel and behave…
Day 1
The
goal isn’t to get rid of all your negative thoughts, feelings, and life
situations this summer. That’s impossible. The goal is to change your
response to them.
What’s
something small that’s been stressing you out recently? What can you do
to improve your response today?
Day 2
One of
the most important moments in life is the moment you finally find the
courage to let go of what can’t be changed. Because when you are no
longer able to change a situation, you are challenged to change
yourself—to grow beyond the unchangeable. And that changes everything.
What’s one
unchangeable reality you’ve been resisting recently? What can you do
right now to ease your mind into the acceptance of this reality?
Day 3
Love
what you do, until you can do what you love. Love where you are, until
you can be where you love. Love the people you are with, until you can
be with the people you love most. This is the way we find happiness,
opportunity, and peace.
What do you
love about your present life situation (despite the challenges that
exist)? Who do you love today (despite the quirks they have)?
Day 4
Peace
does not mean to be in a place where there is no chaos, trouble, or hard
realities to deal with. Peace means to be in the midst of all those
things and still remain mentally, emotionally, and physically centered.
What’s
something small that always brings you peace when you think about it?
Why?
Day 5
Oftentimes you don’t even realize you’re blocking your own present
blessings by holding on to the past. Do your best to let go. You are not
your bad days. You are not your mistakes. You are not your scars. You
are not your past. Be here now and breathe.
Who are you
in this moment, without the baggage?
Day 6
Do not
waste your energy fighting against where you are. Rather, invest your
energy into getting to where you want to go. Let go of everything from
the past that does not serve you in this moment, and just be grateful it
brought you to where you are now—to this new beginning.
What’s
something about the present moment that makes it the perfect time to
begin (again)?
Day 7
Too
often we say “life is not fair” while we’re eating our food, sipping a
drink, and reading tweets on our smartphones. Think twice and be
thankful. Right now, before you think of anything else, breathe deeply,
appreciate where you are, and see the value in what you have.
What’s one
privilege you have that you often take for granted?
Day 8
Happiness is letting go of what you assume your life is supposed to be
like right now and sincerely appreciating it for everything that it is.
At the end of this day, before you close your eyes, smile and be at
peace with where you’ve been and grateful for what you have. Life is
good.
What do you
appreciate most about your present life situation? Why?
Day 9
As you
age, you’ll learn to value your time, genuine relationships, meaningful
work, and peace of mind, much more. Little else will matter. Thus, the
strongest sign of your growth is realizing you’re no longer worried or
stressed by the trivial things that once used to drain you.
What’s
something that used to drive you crazy, but no longer bothers you? Why?
Day 10
What
you focus on grows. Stop managing your time. Start managing your focus.
99% of what stressed you out recently won’t even matter a month from
now. Shake off the nonsense, bring your attention back to what’s
important, and move forward with your life.
What is truly
worth focusing on today? What is NOT?
Day 11
Everything gets a bit uncomfortable when it’s time to change. That’s
just a part of the growth process. Things will get better. Be patient
and remind yourself: Life never gets easier, you just get stronger.
How has the
discomfort you’ve felt in the past helped you grow? How can you better
accept the discomfort you presently feel?
Day 12
You
can disappoint people and still be good enough. You can fail and still
be smart, capable and talented. You can let people down and still be
worthwhile and deserving of love and admiration. We all make mistakes
sometimes. Take a deep breath. You are allowed to be human.
How does
giving yourself full permission to be human feel right now? How will you
remind yourself to do this more often?
Day 13
It’s
OK to… Say “no.” Speak up. Tell the truth. Ask questions. Believe
differently. Change your mind. Prioritize your needs. Learn from your
mistakes. Embrace your imperfections. Forgive and seek forgiveness.
Begin again, stronger than before.
What can you
do to loosen the grip your have on yourself? How can you give yourself a
little extra space to make the right decisions today?
Day 14
Forgive yourself for the bad decisions you made, for the times you
lacked understanding, for the choices that hurt others and yourself.
Forgive yourself, for being young and reckless. These are all vital
lessons. And what matters most right now is your willingness to grow
from them.
What
specifically do you need to forgive yourself for? What have your error(s)
in judgment taught you?
Day 15
Inner
peace begins the moment you take a deep breath and choose not to allow
another person or event to control your thoughts. You are not what
happened to you. You are what you choose to become in this moment. Let
go, breathe, and begin again.
What are you
holding on to that’s holding you down? What can you let go of right now
(without losing a thing)?
Day 16
If you
wait until you feel 100% ready, you will be waiting the rest of your
life. Realize this! Some people wait all day for 5pm, all week for
Friday, all year for the holidays, all their lives for happiness. Don’t
be one of them.
What’s one
(true) reason you’re good enough and ready enough, right now?
Day 17
We
waste our time waiting for the ideal path to appear. But it never does.
Because we forget that paths are made by walking, not waiting. And no,
you shouldn’t feel more confident before you take the next step. Taking
the next step is what builds your confidence.
What’s the
next step you’ve been thinking about taking, for far too long?
Day 18
It’s
funny how we outgrow what we once thought we couldn’t live without, and
then we fall in love with what we didn’t even know we wanted. Life keeps
leading us on journeys we would never go on if it were up to us. Don’t
be afraid. Have faith. Find the lessons. Trust the journey.
What’s
something you’ve moved on from that once meant the world to you? And,
what’s something you love today that you never even knew you needed in
your life?
Day 19
Even
when it seems personal, rarely do people do things because of you, they
do things because of them. You know this is true. You may not be able
control all the things people say and do to you, but you can decide not
to be reduced by them. Make that decision for yourself today.
What’s
something you often take too personally even though, logically, you know
better? How does consciously removing this burden from your mind in this
moment feel?
Day 20
When
someone upsets us, this is often because they aren’t behaving according
to our fantasy of how they “should” behave. The frustration, then, stems
not from their behavior but from how their behavior differs from our
fantasy. Let’s not get carried away. Remember, calmness is a superpower.
How can you
let calmness be your superpower today, instead?
Day 21
Don’t
lower your standards, but do remember that removing your expectations of
others is the best way to avoid being disappointed by them. You will end
up sadly disappointed if you expect people will always do for you as you
do for them. Not everyone has the same heart as you.
How have your
expectations of others gotten the best of you recently? How will you
remind yourself to ease your expectations today?
Day 22
Everybody you meet is afraid of something, loves something, and has lost
something. Know this. Respect this. And be extra kind. Take time to
really listen. Take time to learn something new. Take time to say thank
you, today.
What can you
easily do to be a little kinder than usual today? And, who was the last
person who was unexpectedly kind to you? Let this sink in, and carry on
accordingly.
Day 23
You
can’t control how other people receive your energy. Whatever someone
interprets or projects onto you is at least partially an issue or
problem that they themselves are dealing with, which has nothing to do
with you. Just keep doing your thing with as much love and integrity as
possible.
What’s one
good, recent example of someone with a negative attitude completely
misjudging you?
Day 24
You
will never find your worth in another human being—you find it in
yourself, and then you will attract those who are worthy of your energy.
Realize this. Accept and acknowledge your own worth. Stop waiting for
others to tell you how important you are. Tell yourself. And believe
it..
What’s one
little thing that makes you worthy in your own eyes right now?
Day 25
You
won’t always be a priority to others, and that’s why you have to be a
priority to yourself. Learn to respect yourself, take care of yourself,
and become your own support system. Your needs matter. Start meeting
them. Don’t wait on others to choose you. Choose yourself, today!
Why do you
often turn to others for the support you can easily give to yourself?
How will you choose yourself today?
Day 26
A tiny
part of your life is decided by uncontrollable circumstances, while the
vast majority of it is decided by your perspective of these
circumstances. Let this sink in. Regardless of what’s going on around
you, peace of mind arrives the moment you come to peace with what’s on
your mind.
What is one
reality you need to come to peace with? Why?
Day 27
When
things aren’t adding up in your life, begin subtracting. Life gets a lot
simpler when you clear the clutter that makes it complicated. Fill your
life with lots of experiences, not lots of things. Have incredible
stories to tell, not incredible clutter in your closets.
What forms of
clutter have been complicating your life and diverting you from
meaningful experiences? How can you simplify and clear some space for
yourself today?
Day 28
There’s a big difference between giving up and starting over in the
right direction. Know when enough is enough already, and respect
yourself for feeling that way. Sometimes we have to say goodbye before
we can say hello. Sometimes we have to let go to move forward with our
lives.
What’s
something from your past that you are thankful you gave up on? Just let
this sink in right now.
Day 29
Stop
rushing. Breathe. Be where you are. You’re where you’re supposed to be
at this moment. There’s a time and place for everything, and every step
is necessary. Just keep doing your best, and don’t force what’s not yet
supposed to fit into your life. When it’s meant to be, it will be.
What is
necessary and true about where you are right now? How does it feel to
embrace this present reality?
Day 30
Just
breathe, be, and pay attention to what it’s like to be YOU. Nothing to
fix. Nothing to change. Nowhere else to go. Just you, breathing, being,
with presence, without judgment. You are welcome here. You belong here.
Here, you are enough. Close your eyes. Breathe…
What’s
something true about you that you need to embrace more openly and
lovingly?
Day 31
Give
yourself the space to hear your own voice—your own soul. Too many of us
listen to the noise of the world and get lost in the crowd. Stand
strong! Live by choice, not by chance. Work to grow, not compete. Choose
to listen to yourself, not the jumbled opinions of everyone else.
What has your
inner voice been trying to tell you today?
Day 32
Forget
popularity. Just do your thing with passion, humility, and honesty. Do
what you do, not for an applause, but because it’s what’s right. Pursue
it a little bit each day, no matter what anyone else thinks. That’s how
dreams are achieved.
What’s
something that’s worth working on today, regardless of what other people
think? Why is it important to you?
Day 33
If it
entertains you now but will hurt or bore you someday, it’s a
distraction. Don’t settle. Don’t exchange what you want most for what
you kind of want at the moment. Study your habits. Figure out where your
time goes, and remove distractions. It’s time to focus on what matters.
What
distractions have been getting the best of you lately? How will you
refocus your energy?
Day 34
Don’t
fall back into your old patterns of living just because they’re more
comfortable and easier to access. Remember, you left certain habits and
situations behind for a reason: to improve your life. And right now, you
can’t move forward if you keep going back.
What’s one
old pattern of behavior that sometimes still sneaks up on you? What’s a
better alternative today, and why?
Day 35
Love
what you do, until you can do what you love. Love where you are, until
you can be where you love. Love the people you are with, until you can
be with the people you love most. This is the way we find happiness,
opportunity, and peace.
How will you
embody “love” today? What does this mean to you?
Day 36
The
older we grow, the more peaceful we become. Life humbles us gradually as
we age. We realize how much nonsense we’ve wasted time on. So, just do
your best right now to feel the peace that flows from your decision to
rise above the petty drama that doesn’t really matter.
What kind of
drama do you sometimes get caught up in? What can you do to rise above
it?
Day 37
You
become a true master of your life when you learn how to master your
focus—where your attention goes. Value what you give your energy to.
Rise above the pettiness trying to draw you in. Focus on what matters.
Where attention goes, energy flows. Where energy flows, things grow.
What truly
DOES matter to you most right now?
Day 38
It’s
not too late. You aren’t behind. You’re exactly where you need to be.
Every step is necessary. Don’t judge or berate yourself for how long
your journey is taking. We all need our own time to travel our own
distance. Give yourself credit. And be thankful you made it this far.
How far have
you come? How much have you grown? Think about the specifics of your
recent and long-term growth. What have you not given yourself enough
credit for? Give yourself credit right now.
Day 39
You’re
not the same person you were a year ago, a month ago, or a week ago.
You’re always growing. Experiences don’t stop. That’s life. And the very
experiences that seem so hard when you’re going through them are the
ones you’ll look back on with gratitude for how far you’ve come.
What’s the
hardest thing you’re trying to accomplish or cope with right now? What
is something small and necessary about this struggle?
Day 40
There
will come a time when you think it’s all over, everything is finished…
you’ve reached the end of the road. That’s the starting line. Be humble.
Be teachable. The world is bigger than your view of the world. There’s
always room for a new idea, a new step… a new beginning.
What does “a
new beginning” mean to you right now?
Remember,
consistency is key…
Are you
willing to spend a little time every day like most people won’t, so you
can spend the better part of your life like most people can’t?
Think about
that question for a moment.
For the
longest time I knew the value of journaling—I heard the success stories
of others—and yet I never cracked open my journal consistently. Why?
Because I thought I didn’t have enough time for it. I was “too busy.”
That was, until my ongoing negligence led to heightened levels of
stress—continuous mental noise—that literally put me in a hospital (my
life was so disordered and hectic, I started having panic attacks).
I learned the
hard way, but YOU don’t have to.
Consider this
my attempt to shake you awake and get you started with a small,
life-changing ritual of daily journaling. And note my emphasis on
“daily.” Because the journaling prompts above mean almost nothing if
they are not practiced consistently. One day of journaling by itself
won’t cut it.
It is the
compound effect of simple, seemingly ordinary actions over time that
leads to life-altering, positive results.
Consider this
quick quote from our New York Times bestselling book: “There is nothing
immediately sensational about putting one foot in front of the other
every day for weeks, but by doing so, many normal human beings have
climbed over 29,000 feet to the top of the highest mountain in the
world, Mount Everest.”
And, there is
nothing immediately exciting about forcing yourself into self-reflection
through journaling for a short time every day, but by doing so, I (and
hundreds of course students and conference attendees Angel and I have
personally worked with) have drastically better lives.
Remember, the
mind needs to be trained to gain strength. It needs to be worked
consistently to grow and develop over time. And that’s precisely what a
daily ritual of journaling will gradually allow you to achieve. (Note:
Angel and I build more small, life-changing daily rituals like this with
our students in the “Goals and Growth” module of the Getting Back to
Happy Course.)
Your turn…
The most
fundamental aggression to ourselves and others—the most fundamental harm
we can do to human nature as a whole—is to remain ignorant by not making
the time to pause every day and look at ourselves and others carefully,
honestly and gently.
With this in
mind, I’d love to hear your thoughts about this article and the morning
journaling prompts. What resonated with you? What didn’t? Is there
anything else you would add?