The holidays
are over. School and work are back in full swing. And it’s already
mid-January.
Thus, it’s
time to get our minds clear on all our big ideas for 2020, and what
really matters in the days, weeks, and months ahead…
Let’s make a
pact to finish January mentally strong!
How?
First, let’s
remind ourselves that the best way to achieve anything worthwhile in
life is to build small daily rituals that you practice every single day
(or at least every day you’re physically able to). A small daily ritual
is a practice you regard as special, an activity not to be taken
lightly, that you prioritize and set apart from the rest of your
routine. It’s something you willingly surrender yourself to, not
allowing yourself to reject the parts of it you dislike, but instead
pushing forward and committing to the full experience for a short time
each day. And of course, the small bits of progress you make each day
add up to something big, and ultimately change the trajectory of your
life.
A good
example might be a five-minute daily writing ritual, where you decide to
write every morning after breakfast, shutting off your phone and other
distractions, and just writing quietly. You have a clear intention, then
you set a timer and give yourself fully to the writing, not allowing
yourself to switch to other tasks until the timer goes off. When it goes
off, you bow your head in gratitude for a job well done, smile, and go
about your day. (This is just an example of how I do it; you don’t have
to do it exactly this way.)
With a small
daily ritual like this, you have a clear structure and a reliable
sequence… and yet, you’ll still find yourself wanting to rebel. You’ll
catch your willpower thrashing about sometimes, as you struggle with
your habitual tendency to reach for the nearest distraction. This
thrashing isn’t a bad thing though, because that’s where the most
powerful growth process takes place—in the consistent practice of your
small daily ritual, despite your inner rebellion. In the discomfort of
staying in it for the long haul, you grow stronger and more
self-disciplined with each passing day.
Truly, a
small daily ritual can be unimaginably transformative in a relatively
short time.
And today,
I’m challenging you to jump on the bandwagon with me and begin such a
ritual in your life.
In fact, the
specific challenge is to implement some of what we’ve just discussed…
A Five-Minute
Journaling Ritual for Your Mental Strength
As I’ve
mentioned previously on this blog, journaling is a priceless tool for
inner strength and real-world success.
Oprah keeps a
journal. Lady Gaga keeps a journal. Eminem keeps a journal.
Successful
people all over the world—those who consistently experience positive
growth in their lives—reflect daily and learn from their life
experiences. And they often use some kind of journal to accomplish this.
For the longest time, I knew the value of journaling—I heard the success
stories of others—and yet I never took action. Why? Because I thought I
didn’t have time for it. I was “too busy.”
Needless to
say, I learned the hard way, but YOU don’t have to.
If you want
to get somewhere this year, you need a map, and your journal is that
map. It’s a place to capture significant thoughts. It’s a place to sort
out where you’ve been and where you intend to go. And it’s one of the
most underused, yet incredibly effective personal development tools
available to the masses.
So, I’m
challenging YOU to wake up tomorrow morning and get started with
journaling, consistently, until the end of the month. I’ve listed 20
five-minute journaling prompts below (which are also excerpts from our
New York Times bestselling book) that I’ve personally used in the past
to nudge myself into growth-oriented self-reflection. These prompts will
bring awareness to the beliefs and assumptions you have. And they will
help you think through situations, big and small, and make better
decisions going forward.
Challenge
yourself to read and write on one prompt for five minutes each morning
for the next few weeks. See how doing so changes how you think, as you
prepare for everything the rest of 2020 has in store for you…
Prompt #1
You’re not the same person you were a year ago, a month ago, or a week
ago. You’re always growing. Experiences don’t stop. That’s life. And the
very experiences that seem so hard when you’re going through them are
the ones you’ll look back on with gratitude for how far you’ve come.
What’s the
hardest thing you’re trying to achieve or cope with right now? What is
something small and necessary about this struggle?
Prompt #2
Train
your mind to see the beauty hidden in everything. Your positivity—your
graceful acceptance of life—is a choice. The happiness in your heart
depends on the quality of your mental perspective.
What’s one
thing you could be incredibly grateful for right now, if you wanted to
be grateful?
Prompt #3
As
human beings we are constantly outgrowing what we once thought we
couldn’t live without, and falling in love with what we didn’t even know
we wanted. Life literally keeps leading us on journeys we would never go
on if it were up to us. Don’t be afraid. Have faith. Find the lessons.
Trust the journey.
What’s
something you’ve moved on from that once meant the world to you? And,
what’s something you love today that you never even knew you needed in
your life?
Prompt #4
If you
don’t allow yourself to move past what happened, what was said, what was
felt, you will look at your present and future through that same dirty
lens and nothing will be able to focus your foggy judgment. Realize
this. What you do now matters more than what happened yesterday.
What’s one
unchangeable reality you’re still holding on to and resisting? What can
you do right now to ease your mind into the acceptance of this reality?
Prompt #5
Happiness is letting go of what you assume your life is supposed to be
like right now, and sincerely appreciating it for everything that it is.
So, RELAX. You are enough. You have enough. You do enough. Breathe deep…
let go, and just live right now in this moment. Then, let your renewed
presence fuel your next step.
Who would you
be, and what else would you see about your present life situation, if
you removed the thought that’s been worrying you?
Prompt #6
When a
flower doesn’t bloom properly, you fix the environment in which it
grows, not the flower itself. The same is true for YOU. You can’t heal
yourself in the same exact environment where you got sick. Realize this,
respect this, and do your best to surround yourself with people and
situations that push you to be your best. Less drama, less mess. Just
higher vibrations and intentions, inside and out.
How has your
daily environment been affecting you recently?
Prompt #7
There
are hundreds of people in every town on Earth who live their entire
lives on the default settings, never realizing they can customize
everything. Don’t be one of them. Don’t settle for the default settings
in life.
What’s one
small example of how you have “customized” your life for the better?
Prompt #8
A big
part of your life is a result of your choices. If you don’t like some
part of your life, it’s time to start making changes and new choices.
And it’s OK to be low-key about it. You don’t need to put everything on
social media. Silently progress and let your actions speak for
themselves.
What have
your most recent actions been saying about your priorities? What kind of
silent progress would you like to make in your life by the end of the
month?
Prompt #9
If it
entertains you now but will hurt you someday, it’s a distraction. Don’t
settle. Don’t exchange what you want most for what’s easiest at the
moment. Study your routines and habits. Figure out where your energy
goes, and remove distractions. It’s time to focus on what matters.
What’s one
distraction that has been getting the best of you lately? Why?
Prompt #10
You
become a true master of your life when you learn how to master your
focus—where your attention goes. Value what you give your energy to.
Rise above the pettiness trying to draw you in. Focus on what matters.
Where attention goes, energy flows. Where energy flows, things grow.
What truly
DOES matter to you most right now?
Prompt #11
Get
up. Make that call. Go on that date. Apply for that job. Start that
side-hustle. Don’t be afraid of rejection, struggle or failing forward.
There’s no shame in trying your best. Live, learn and grow through every
risk you take towards inner growth and fulfillment.
What’s one
small risk you believe is worth taking in the months ahead? What’s the
first step?
Prompt #12
Nothing big happens overnight. True progress takes time. Don’t give up
because you can’t yet see the results of your labor. It can take months
of focus and dedication to get outcomes you can actually see. You gotta
believe even when the immediate results are invisible to the eye.
What’s
something big you’ve accomplished in the past that once seemed
impossible?
Prompt #13
Life
doesn’t want to give you pain, it wants you to grow and evolve. Repeated
struggles aren’t punishment, they’re opportunities to demonstrate
strength and progress. Anybody can talk about how strong they are, but
life requires you to prove it. Prove that you are ready to level-up!
Why are you
ready to level-up right now? Ans why are the painful parts of this
process totally worth it?
Prompt #14
Working hard is important, but rest is too. It’s tempting to fill in
every waking minute of the day with tasks. Don’t do this to yourself.
Leave space. The space between the things we do is just as important as
the things we do. Your overarching goal right now is living a life
uncluttered by most of the things people fill their lives with, leaving
you with space for what truly matters. A life that isn’t constant
busyness, rushing and stress, but instead mindful contemplation,
creation and connection with people and projects you truly need in your
life.
How can you
give yourself a little extra time and space to make the right decisions
on a daily basis?
Prompt #15
It’s
OK to… Say “no.” Speak up. Tell the truth. Ask questions. Believe
differently. Change your mind. Prioritize your needs. Learn from your
mistakes. Embrace your imperfections. Forgive and seek forgiveness.
Begin again, stronger than before.
What’s one
thing you would do differently if you knew no one would judge you?
Prompt #16
You
can’t control how other people feel, or how they receive your energy.
Anything you do or say gets filtered through a mindset occupied by
whatever they are going through at the moment, which has nothing to do
with you. Just keep doing your thing with as much love as possible.
What’s one
good, recent example of someone with a negative attitude completely
misjudging you? How did you handle it, and what did you learn?
Prompt #17
When
you guide somebody who is confused, when you hold somebody who is sad,
when you hug somebody who has lost their hope, you too will feel
yourself healing and growing stronger. So, no matter what has happened,
or what happens today, let kindness be your superpower. Being extra kind
to people is a peaceful way to live in each moment, and a beautiful
legacy to leave behind in the long run.
Who was the
last person who was unexpectedly kind to you? What can you easily do to
be a little kinder than usual today, and beyond?
Prompt #18
As you
get older, what you look like on the outside becomes less and less of an
issue, and who you are on the inside becomes the primary point of
interest. You eventually realize that beauty has almost nothing to do
with looks—it’s who you are as a human being, how you make others feel
about themselves, and most importantly, how you feel about yourself.
What makes
your significant other (or someone else you love) truly beautiful on the
inside? What make YOU truly beautiful on the inside?
Prompt #19
Just
breathe, be, and pay attention to what it’s like to be YOU in this
moment. Nothing to fix. Nothing to change right now. Nowhere else to go.
Just you, breathing, being, with presence, without judgment. You are
welcome here. You belong here. Here, you are enough. Close your eyes.
Breathe…
What’s
something true about yourself that you need to embrace more openly and
lovingly today?
Prompt #20
There
will come a time when you think it’s all over, everything is finished…
you’ve reached the end of the road. That’s the starting line. Be humble.
Be teachable. The world is bigger than your view of the world. There’s
always room for a new idea, a new step… a new beginning.
What does “a
new beginning” mean to you right now?
Choose to
Live YOUR Truth
My greatest
wish for YOU right now is that you leverage the journal prompts above to
live your life not as a bystander…
Not as a
prisoner to the false beliefs that sometimes keep you stuck in your
seat.
Instead, live
in this world, on this day, and every day in 2020 as an active
participant. Every morning, ask yourself what is real and important to
you, and then find the courage, wisdom and willpower to build your day
around your answer.
It’s your
choice.
YOUR choice!
You are choosing right now.
And if you’re
choosing…
to complain…
to blame…
to be stuck in the past…
to act like a victim…
to feel insecure…
to feel anger…
to feel hate…
to be naive…
to ignore your intuition…
to ignore good advice…
to give up…
…then it’s
time to choose differently!
But, let me
also remind you that you are not alone. Generations of human beings in
your family tree have chosen. Human beings around the world have chosen.
We all have chosen at one time or another. And we stand behind you now
whispering:
Choose to be
present.
Choose to be positive.
Choose to forgive yourself.
Choose to forgive others.
Choose to see your value.
Choose to see the possibilities.
Choose to find meaning.
Choose to prove you’re not a victim.
Choose to let go of your false beliefs and stories.
Choose to
find the mental strength needed to take a real, productive step forward
today.
Your turn…
If you’re
feeling up to it, we would love to hear from you right now too.
Which journal
prompt above resonates with you the most today, and why?