“There are
only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle.
The other is as though everything is a miracle.”
— Albert Einstein
The older we
grow, the more peaceful and grateful we become. Life humbles us
gradually as we age. We realize how much nonsense we have wasted time
on. And we begin to feel the peace that flows from our decision to rise
above the petty drama and distractions that don’t really matter.
I was
reminded of this today after reading the opening lines of an email from
a seasoned “Think Better, Live Better 2020” digital ticket attendee
named Mary Ann. She gave me full permission to share her words with you…
“Today I am
celebrating my 90th birthday. I’ve seen the world change many times
over. It’s amazing how much progress we’ve made. When I was a child
there was no such thing as a television, and now I’m online typing this
on a touchscreen tablet my grandson bought me for my birthday. This ride
we call ‘life’ is amazing! It’s something worth appreciating every day.”
The rest of
her email discusses the ups and downs of her 90-year journey, and how
she perceives life as being like an “ongoing jigsaw puzzle” we never
quite complete. “It’s crazy how some pieces randomly go missing, and
then other pieces you didn’t even know existed fit so perfectly in the
empty spaces,” she says. “We just have to do our best to not let our own
negativity get the best of us.”
Mary Ann’s
words of wisdom remind me that there will always be ups and downs in
life, but ultimately, at the end of the day, that’s what makes each of
us who we are. Which is why you have to learn to accept both the good
and the bad that falls on your plate with grace. Because everything in
life happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at the right
moment, neither too soon nor too late. For everything you lose, you gain
something else. And for everything you gain, you lose something else.
You don’t have to appreciate it, but it’s just easier if you do.
So, pay
attention to your outlook on life. Every day you can either regret or
rejoice; it’s your choice. When you choose the latter, life opens doors
to amazing experiences you will likely remember forever. Here are 40
such experiences…
01. Flowing
and working through life’s great challenges. –
No
matter what happens, do your best and smile. You won’t enjoy your life
if you don’t enjoy your challenges. Great challenges make life
interesting, and overcoming them makes life meaningful.
02. The
freedom that comes from acceptance. –
The
secret to happiness and peace is letting every situation be what it is,
instead of what you think it should be, and then making the best of it.
03. Moments
of sincere gratitude. –
Appreciate life even when it’s not ideal. Happiness is not the
fulfillment of what we wish for, but an appreciation for what we have.
When life gives you every reason to be negative, think of one good
reason to be positive. There’s always something to be grateful for.
04. The
beautiful happenings that made it all worthwhile. –
When
you can look back on painful events and feel that you were blessed for
how you grew, for the love you knew, for the very fact that you did live
through those times, then, and only then, can you truly appreciate
gratitude’s vital role in the process of letting go.
05. Walking
comfortably in your own shoes. –
We are
all weird in some way. What sets you apart may seem like a burden, but
it’s not. Most of the time it’s what makes you so incredible.
06. The
moment you start listening to your inner voice, rather than defying it.
–
Sometimes your mind needs more time to accept what your heart already
knows. Breathe. Be a witness, not a judge. Listen to your intuition.
07. Aligning
what you do with who you are. –
Make
the rest of your life the best of your life. Create a life that feels
good on the inside, not one that just looks good on the outside.
08. Using
your unique ideas, perspectives, and skills to make a difference. –
If you
desire to make a difference in the world, you must be different from the
world, and you must be bold enough to show it.
09. Designing
your own life, your own way. –
No
matter how you live, someone will be disappointed. So live a life you
are proud of. Live YOUR truth and be sure YOU aren’t the one who is
disappointed in the end.
10. Working
hard on something you love. –
Hard
work becomes easy when your work becomes your play. Never underestimate
the value of loving what you do. When we lose ourselves in the things we
love, we find ourselves there, too.
11. Knowing
deep down that you gave your dreams a fair chance. –
Most
of the time the only difference between a dream that came true and one
that didn’t, is a person who wouldn’t give up and one who did.
12.
Reflections of your own bravery. –
When
you’re scared but you take the next step anyway, that’s bravery.
13. The glory
of conquering an old fear. –
Fear
is a feeling, not a fact. The best way to gain strength and
self-confidence is to do what you are afraid to do. Dare to stretch
yourself.
14. Being
courageous enough to grow and evolve. –
It
takes courage to grow and become who you really are. Don’t fear change.
You may lose something good, but you may also gain something great.
15. The way
you feel at the end of highly productive days. –
Laziness may appear attractive, but work leads to happiness. You are
what you do, not what you say you’ll do. Good things don’t come to those
who wait; they come to those who work on meaningful goals.
16. When your
patience finally pays off. –
Patience is not the ability to wait, but how you act and how hard you
are willing to work while you’re waiting for your work to pay off.
17. Making
the impossible possible. –
In
most cases, impossible is not a fact; it’s an opinion. Almost anything
is possible if you’ve got enough time and enough nerve.
18. When you
have a great reason to be impressed with yourself. –
Spend
less time impressing others and more time impressing yourself. Climb a
mountain so you can see the world, not so the world can see you.
19. Engaging
deeply in your own journey, drama-free. –
Let
the tasks of refining, improving, and appreciating your own life keep
you so busy that you have no need and no time to criticize others, or
engage in their drama.
20. Standing
up for yourself. –
Sometimes we suffer, not because of the violence others inflict on us,
but because of our own silence. When someone tries to bully you, stand
up for yourself and say, “Not so fast, buddy! Your delusion of
superiority is your problem, not mine.
21.
Relationships that make you a better person. –
Know
that it’s less important to have more friends and more important to have
real ones. Surround yourself with people who make you better, and
cherish every moment of your time together.
22. Knowing
deep down that you truly matter to someone else. –
Someday you will be just a memory to some people. Do your best to be a
great one.
23. True
intimate love. –
True
love is not about how many days, months or years you’ve been with
someone. True love is about how much you actually love each other every
day.
24.
Appreciating the beautiful imperfections of another person. –
Imperfection is real and beautiful. It’s how two people accept and deal
with the imperfections of their relationship, that make it ideal in the
end. (Read The Gifts of Imperfection.)
25. Following
through with your promises. –
Unless
a real commitment is made there are only empty promises and hopes, but
no real plans or results. Remember, commitment means staying loyal and
keeping a promise long after the mood you made the promise in has left
you.
26. Giving a
struggling soul a little extra leeway. –
Don’t
be so quick to judge. The strongest people are not those who show
strength in front of us, but those who win battles we know nothing
about.
27. Helping
someone who desperately needs your kindness. –
Those
who are hardest to love often need it the most. So treat everyone with
kindness, even those who are rude. Give them a chance.
28. Knowing
you did the right thing. –
True
integrity is doing the right thing, no matter what, even when nobody’s
going to know whether you did it or not.
29. Seeing
genuine smile you helped create. –
Few
things are more satisfying than helping someone else smile a little more
than before.
30. Coming to
a loving compromise with someone special. –
Sometimes we must choose to be wrong, not because we really are wrong,
but because we value our relationship more than our pride.
31. Moments
of mindful presence. –
If
you’re always racing to the next moment, what happens to the one you’re
in? Stop over thinking and worrying. Life is too short for that. Worry
and rumination are the worst enemies to living happily in the present.
Take a moment here and there to just be and breathe.
32. The
liberation of letting go. –
Letting go of the past is your first step toward happiness. So finish
each day before you begin the next, and build a solid foundation of rest
between the two.
33. The
process of growing through failure. –
Remember, your failure does not define you, your determination does.
Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, smarter than before.
34. When the
sun finally shines through the dark clouds again. –
Don’t
give up on yourself. Keep fighting. Sometimes you’ve got to go through
the worst of times to get the best. (Angel and I discuss this in detail
in the “Adversity” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful
People Do Differently.)
35.
Surprising new beginnings. –
Every
ending is the beginning of something else. Every exit is an entry
somewhere else. As long as you are breathing, it’s never too late; every
day is a new opportunity.
36. The
nimble feeling of being a beginner. –
Allow
yourself to be a beginner. No one starts off being great. Do the best
you can until you know better. When you know better, do better.
37. The
exhilaration of first time experiences. –
You
can see or do something a million times, but you can only see or do it
for the first time once. And that makes doing so worth it. Many of the
great times you will remember for a lifetime are the ones when you
stepped outside of your comfort zone and tried something new.
38. Becoming
a parent. –
Being
a mother or father is discovering strengths you didn’t know you had and
dealing with fears you never knew existed.
39. The
happiness YOU create for yourself and those you love. –
In
life, you often have to create your own sunshine. So read something
positive every morning when you wake up, and let it inspire you to do
something positive before you go back to sleep at night. That’s how
memorable days are made.
40. Every
moment you are busy living through love. –
Today
is one of the good ol’ days you’re going to miss someday. So be sooo
busy loving your life and those in it that you have no time for hate,
regret or fear.
Now, it’s
your turn…
Truth be
told, talking about our problems is our greatest addiction. Let’s break
this negative habit today and talk about our joys, our loves, and our
victories instead. So tell me this:
What makes
your life incredible? What about it is worth remembering?