“The
ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the
necessary may speak.”
—Hans Hofmann
Have
incredible stories to tell by the end of 2021, not incredible clutter
stuffed in your closets. I sincerely wish this for my family, and yours,
in the year ahead.
So, let me
start off here by asking you…
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Does your
home serve you—or do you serve your home?
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Will your
home afford you the necessary space to create happy, healthy
memories and stories in the year ahead?
These are not
questions most of us ask ourselves, but we should. After all, our homes
are meant to serve a distinct purpose in our lives—to be both the space
we come back to, and the space we go out from each day. Our homes are,
in essence, the foundation of our daily lives. This has been especially
true over the past year, while we’ve lived through COVID-19.
And as we
enter the New Year, it’s a great time to check in with yourself…
If your home
is serving you well, it is a safe harbor from the storms of life—a space
to relax, rest, and connect in meaningful ways with loved ones and
friends. And it’s a secure port of departure when you’re ready to brave
the choppy seas of life again. A home serves you best when it provides
both of these benefits.
A home
doesn’t serve you when it complicates your life and takes more than it
gives. When possessing your home (and maintaining the possessions within
it) becomes your focus, you end up spending your limited and valuable
resources (time, energy, money) taking care of it. That’s when you know
you’re serving your home. You’re spending less time living the life you
want, because you’re spending more time cleaning, maintaining, and
repairing—and perhaps also paying a hefty mortgage or rent for the
privilege.
The good news
is it doesn’t have to be that way. It’s possible to live more by owning
less. And that’s the premise of my writing in The Minimalist Home. It’s
a purpose-based guide to a simpler, decluttered, refocused life—one that
makes sure your home is serving you, and not the other way around. It
recognizes that each of us can love the house—the home—we live in.
Here are 21
changes I offer in the book to help create a home that better serves
you:
01. Get your
head straight about what matters, and what in your home is distracting
you from what matters.
For
most of us, our excessive physical possessions are not making us happy.
Even worse, they are taking us away from the things that do. Once we let
go of the things that don’t matter, we are free to pursue all the things
that really do matter. And sometimes, minimizing physical possessions
means an old dream must die. But this is not always a bad thing. Because
sometimes, it takes (mentally and emotionally) giving up the person we
wanted to be in order to fully appreciate the person we can actually
become.
02. Remove
decorations that no longer inspire you.
Just
because something made you happy in the past doesn’t mean you have to
keep it forever. Your life has moved on—maybe it’s time for the
decoration to do the same. Remove the knickknacks and pictures that no
longer inspire you. Or the decoration you bought that one time because
it was on clearance. Keeping just the items that mean the most to you
will help them to shine.
03. Reject
the convenience fallacy.
There
are certain places in our homes we tend to leave items out for
convenience—a stack of favorite DVDs in the corner, appliances on the
counters in the kitchen, toiletries beside the bathroom sink. By leaving
these things out, we think we’re saving time and simplifying our lives.
That’s the convenience fallacy. Sure, we might save a couple of seconds,
but the other 99.9 percent of the time, those items just sit there
creating a visual distraction. If you’re not using your convenience
items at least 50 percent of the time they’re out, keep them in a
cabinet or drawer and out of sight.
04.
Distinguish between simplifying (or minimizing) and tidying up.
Just
because a room is tidy doesn’t necessarily mean it’s uncluttered or
serves its purpose. Well-organized clutter is still clutter. Never
organize what you don’t even use and can easily donate to someone who
will.
05. Count the
“clutter cost.”
It can
be hard to get rid of things you spent a lot of money on. But keeping
things you no longer wear, use, or love also has a cost—every object
carries a burden as well as a benefit. The burden or “clutter cost” is
the money, time, energy, and space an object demands of you. If you’re
having trouble letting go of a pricey item you don’t use—or any item for
that matter—remember to consider the benefit-to-burden ratio before you
decide to keep it.
06. Free up
closet space.
One of
the biggest complaints people have about their homes is that the closets
are too small. If you’ve been thinking that you need bigger closets,
maybe all you need to do is right-size your wardrobe—and your closet
will feel bigger overnight.
07. Donate
clothes you don’t love.
After
decluttering your closet, you’ll find more space and peace each morning
when you get ready, rather than facing stress and indecision. Plus,
donating unused clothing to a local charity is a simple but meaningful
way to help others.
08. Declutter
duplicates.
I call
this a minimizing accelerator because it’s one of the easiest things you
can do to make quick progress. Open your linen closet, for example. How
many extra pillows, sheets, and towels do you really need? Other good
candidates for eliminating duplicates include cleaning supplies,
gardening tools, fashion accessories, home office supplies, toys, books,
and kitchen items. Keep your favorite in each category—the ones you
actually use—and get rid of the rest.
09. Clear
your dining room table.
Is
your dining room table a depository for mail, backpacks, keys, and other
things that are in the process of going from one place to another? If
so, chances are that using it for a meal may seem like more work than
it’s worth. Put the items away where they belong. Make your tabletop a
clean, open and inviting space.
10. Invite
the right people to gather at your dining room table, often.
These
are the people you enjoy, who love and appreciate you, and who encourage
you to improve in healthy and exciting ways. They are the ones who make
you feel more alive, and not only embrace who you are now, but also
embrace and embody who you want to be. The bottom line is that your
decluttering efforts have given you more space to share stories,
experiences, hugs and laughs with family, good friends, and close
neighbors. Don’t forget to make it count.
11. Practice
gratitude, in your home, daily.
At
least once a day, it’s good to pause in your pursuit of a simpler and
more organized life, look around, and simply appreciate the life you’re
presently living. As Marc and Angel have shared in their inspiring
bestseller, 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently:
“Look around, and be thankful right now. For your health, your family,
your friends, and your home. Nothing lasts forever.”
12. Take down
signs that don’t sincerely vibe with your present values.
I know
a woman with a sign in her laundry room that says, “It’s tough living in
the fast lane when you’re married to a speed bump.” I get the humor, but
I wonder how reading that sign every day might affect her approach to
her marriage, even in small ways. If you’re going to put words up on
your walls, don’t you want them to inspire you and call you higher
instead?
13. Calm a
space for reading and being at peace.
Even
if you aren’t up for decluttering an entire room, you can “calm” a
space. You calm a space when you minimize distractions. Choose a
favorite chair and declutter everything around it. Remove anything from
the floor that isn’t furniture. Clear the surface of side tables or a
coffee table by removing or storing remotes, pet toys, kid toys, hobby
items, old newspapers/magazines, mail, books, etc.
14. Clean out
your entertainment center.
These
large pieces of furniture often harbor lots of small items we no longer
need. Take out old electronic components, cords you don’t need, and
discs and games nobody uses. Get rid of them by recycling responsibly,
arrange the devices you do use in an eye-pleasing display, and hide
their cords as much as possible.
15. Pare down
your beauty and grooming supplies.
I
don’t know how big your bathroom is, but get rid of the clutter and I
guarantee it will seem more spacious and peaceful to be in. Empty out
the cabinets and drawers. Separate beauty tools (hair dryer, styling
iron, savers, etc.) from beauty supplies (make-up, lotion, aftershave,
etc.). Eliminate duplicates, throw out anything that’s broken or old,
and get rid of items you no longer use. Then wash your storage
containers and organize what you’re going to keep.
16. Tackle a
junk drawer.
Most
of us have one. It’s the default resting place for small items that have
no better place to be. Or for things we think might have some use but we
can no longer remember what it is. Chances are good you can toss out
most of what’s in there and never miss it.
17. Clear
space for your car in the garage.
A
garage is not serving you well if it’s not serving its purpose, which is
to house your car. That’s not to say that there’s anything wrong with
using a garage for storage, but it’s possible to go too far with it—and
a lot of us do. Get rid of all the obvious candidates for decluttering—odds
and ends and leftovers, kids’ unused playthings and sporting equipment,
duplicate tools, spare parts, etc.
18. Set
physical boundaries for your kids.
Give
your kids a certain amount of space and allow them to manage it how they
want. For example, in our garage, my wife and I keep one shelving unit
and one plastic bin. The kids store their outdoor toys on the shelves
and keep balls in the bin. When things begin to overflow, we ask them to
make decisions about what to keep and what to get rid of. The same
principle applies to a bedroom or a toy basket.
19. Leave
space between everything you do in your home, too.
Clear
a little extra space between your personal tasks and obligations. Take a
break to stretch, take a short walk outside, drink a glass of water,
perhaps do some simple deep breathing exercises. Enjoy the (emotional
and physical) space you’ve created for yourself in your home, and
breathe. Remember, your overarching goal is living a life uncluttered by
most of the things people fill their lives with, leaving you with space
for what truly matters. A life that isn’t constant busyness, rushing and
stress, but instead deliberate contemplation, creation and connection
with people and activities you love.
20. Let go of
mental clutter too.
Life
is just too darn short. Do your best to let go of all the purposeless
drama, aimless time-wasters and mental clutter that keeps getting in
your way. Again, it’s time to focus more on what matters in the year
ahead, and let go of what does NOT.
21. Be less
“busy” and more purposeful in 2021.
As
Marc and Angel said in one of their recent email newsletters, “There’s a
big difference between being busy and being effective. Don’t confuse
motion and progress. A rocking horse keeps moving but never makes any
forward progress. So, try not to be the rocking horse in your personal
life in 2021.”
Obviously,
you may not be able to tackle all 21, but how about two or three as you
begin 2021? A home that serves you well in the year ahead is a beautiful
thing. It’s less distracting and more calming, which makes it both a joy
to come back to and an inspiring place to go out from. Don’t wait any
longer to have a home that gives more than it takes.
Now, it’s
YOUR turn…
I would love
to hear from YOU in the comments section.
What part of
your home needs a little simplifying in 2021?
Anything else
to share?