Love 12 Lies To Stop Telling Yourself
THE WORST LIES are the ones we subconsciously tell ourselves. They've been ingrained in our minds by bad external influences and negative thinking. So the next time you decide to uncluttered your life and clean up your space, start with your emotional space by clearing out the old lies and negative self-talk you often recite to yourself. Here are twelve lies to stop telling yourself:
1. I don't have enough yet to be happy.
The happiest of people aren't the luckiest, and they usually don't have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes their way. The reason so many people give up is because they tend to look at what's missing and how far they still have to go, instead of what's present and how far they have come.
2. My dreams are impossible.
Don't let someone who gave up on their dreams talk you out of going after yours. The best thing you can do in life is follow your heart. Take risks. Let your dreams be bigger than your fears and your actions speak louder than your words. Do something every day that your future self will thank you for.
3. I am stuck with people who hurt me.
If someone continuously mistreats you, have enough respect for yourself to leave them. It may hurt for a while, but it'll be OK. You'll be OK. Oftentimes, walking away has nothing to do with weakness, and everything to do with strength.
4. My failed relationships were a waste of time.
There are certain people who aren't meant to fit into your life. But no relationship is ever a waste of time. If it doesn't bring you what you want, it teaches you what you don't want. It just takes a little time to figure it all out.
5. Things will never get better.
Living means facing problems, learning, adapting, and solving them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become. When you find yourself cocooned in isolation and cannot find your way out of the darkness, remember that this is similar to the place where caterpillars go to grow their wings.
6. Failure is bad.
Sometimes you have to fail a thousand times to succeed. No matter how many mistakes you make or how slowly you progress, you are still way ahead of everyone who isn't trying. Don't get so hung up on one failed attempt that you miss the opening for many more. And remember, failure is not falling down, failure is staying down when you have the choice to get back up.
7. Great things will come to me effortlessly.
Never leave your key to happiness in someone else‟s pocket, and don't wait on someone else to build your dream life for you. Be the architect and keeper of your own happiness. The more you take responsibility for your past and present, the more you are able to create the future you seek.
8. My past is 100 percent indicative of my future.
At some point, we've all made mistakes, been walked out on, used, and forgotten. But we shouldn't regret one moment of it, because in those moments we've learned a lot from our bad choices. And even though there are some things we can never recover and people who will never be sorry, we now know better for next time.
9. I never need to meet anyone new.
It sounds harsh, but you cannot keep every friend you've ever made. People and priorities change. As some relationships fade, others will grow. Appreciate the possibility of new relationships as you naturally let go of old ones that no longer work. Embrace new relationships. Be ready to learn, be ready for a challenge, and be ready to meet someone who might just change your life forever.
10. I can‟t live without those who are gone.
Life is change. People really do come and go. Some come back, some don't, and that's OK. And just because one person leaves doesn't mean you should forget about everyone else who‟s still standing by your side. Continue to appreciate what you have, and smile as you embrace the memories.
11. Pm not ready because Pm not good enough yet.
Nobody ever feels 100 percent ready when an opportunity arises. Most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zone, which means we won‟t feel totally comfortable at first. Stop berating yourself for being a work in progress. Start embracing it! You are ready. You just need to start.
12. I have way too much to lose.
In the end you will not regret the things you have done nearly as much as the things you have left undone. It‟s better to think “Oh, well” than “What if.”