10 Mistakes Unhappy People Make
Happiness IS choice. There are no excuses for not trying to make the very best out of your life. There are no excuses for living in a way that consistently makes you unhappy. Here are ten unhappiness mistakes to avoid:
1. Thinking you have already missed your chanceEach moment of your life, including this one, is a fresh start. Three little words can release you from your past regrets and guide you forward to a positive new beginning. These words are: “From now on..."
2. Using failed relationships as an excuse
Life doesn't always introduce you to the people you want to meet. Sometimes life puts you in touch with the people you need to meet—to help you, to hurt you, to leave you, to love you, and to gradually strengthen you into the person you were meant to become.
3. Changing who you are to satisfy others
No matter how loud their opinions are, others cannot choose who you are. The question should not be, "Why don‟t they like me when I‟m
being me?” It should be, “Why am I wasting my time worrying what they think of me?” If you are not hurting anyone with your actions, keep moving forward with your life. Be happy. Be yourself. If others don‟t like it, then let them be. Life isn't about pleasing everyone.
4. Putting up with negative people and negative thinking
It‟s time to walk away from all the drama and the people who create it. Surround yourself with those who make you smile. Love the people who treat you right, and pray for the ones who don‟t. Forget the negative and focus on the positive. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Making mistakes and falling down is a part of life, but getting back up and moving on is what living is all about.
5. Focusing all your attention on another time and place
This day will never happen again. Enjoy it. Cherish your time. It‟s often hard to tell the true value of a moment until it becomes a memory. Someday you may discover that the small things were really the big things. So learn to appreciate what you have before time forces you to appreciate what you once had.
6. Overlooking what you have, to focus on what you don‟t
Most people pay more attention to what they‟re missing, rather than what they have. Instead of thinking about what you‟re missing, think about what you have that everyone else is missing.
7. Dwelling on the things you can't change
The best often comes after the worst happens. You can either move on, or you can dwell on the things you can't change. Either way, life does move on. So learn from the past and then get the heck out of there. You will always grow stronger from the pain if you don't let it destroy you.
8. Constantly sacrificing your own happiness for everyone else
Never let your own happiness wither away as you try to bring sunshine to others. Life is not about making others happy. Life is about being honest and sharing your happiness with them.
9. Losing track of your own goals and ideals
With all the social conditioning in our society, we sometimes forget to stay true to ourselves. In this crazy world that‟s trying to make you like everyone else, stay true to your awesome self.
10. Dealing with the stress of deceiving others
If you say you‟re going to do something, do it! If you say you're going to be somewhere, be there! If you say you feel something, mean it! If you can't, won't, and don't, then say so up front. Live in such a way that if someone decided to attack your character, no one would believe it. Live so that when the people around you think of fairness, caring, and integrity, they think of you.