10 Habits You Must Quit To Be Happy
WHEN YOU QUIT doing the wrong things, you make more room for the things that make you happy. So starting today ...
1. Quit procrastinating on your goals.
Some people dream of success while others wake up and work hard at it. Action and change are often resisted when they're needed most. The secret to getting ahead is simply getting started. So forget about the finish line and just concentrate on taking your first small, imperfect step.
2. Quit blaming others and making excuses.
Stop blaming others for what you have or don't have, or for what you feel or don't feel. When you blame others for what you‟re going through, you deny responsibility and perpetuate the problem. Stop giving your power away and start taking responsibility for your life. Blaming is just another sorry excuse, and making excuses changes nothing; you and only you are responsible for the next step you take.
3. Quit trying to avoid change.
If nothing ever changed, there would be no sunrise the next morning. Most of us are comfortable where we are even though the whole universe is constantly changing around us. Learning to accept this is vital to our happiness and success. Because only when we change do we grow, and begin to see a world we never knew was possible. And don‟t forget—however good or bad a situation is now, it will change. So embrace it and keep moving forward.
4. Quit trying to control the uncontrollable.
Some forces are out of your control, but you can always control how you react. The best thing you can do is let go of what you can‟t control, and invest your energy in the things you can—like your attitude.
5. Quit talking down to yourself.
One of the major reasons we fail is self-doubt and negative self-talk. Listen to the running script in your mind and replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Over time you will change the trajectory of your life.
6. Quit criticizing others.
The negativity you bleed out toward others will gradually cripple your own happiness. So stop worrying about the flaws you see in everyone else, and focus on yourself. Let the constant growth and improvement in your own life keep you so busy that you have no time left to criticize others.
7. Quit running from your problems and fears.
Trust us, if everyone threw their problems in a pile for you to see, you would probably grab yours back. The best approach is to face them head on, no matter how insurmountable they may seem. Fears, in particular, stop you from taking chances and making decisions. Take them on, one small step at a time. Own them, so they can‟t own you.
8. Quit living in another time and place.
The past is gone, and the future isn‟t here yet. No matter how much time we spend thinking and lamenting about either, it doesn't change anything.
One of life‟s sharpest paradoxes is that our brightest future hinges on our ability to pay attention to what we‟re doing right now, today. Don‟t fantasize about being on vacation while at work, and don‟t worry about the work piling up on your desk when you‟re on vacation. Live for now. Notice the beauty unfolding around you.9. Quit trying to be someone you‟re not.
One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that‟s trying to make you like everyone else. Someone will always be prettier, smarter, and younger, but they will never be you. Be yourself and the right people will love you, and you‟ll love yourself more too.
10. Quit being ungrateful.
Remember, not all the puzzle pieces of life will seem to fit together at first, but in time you‟ll realize they do, perfectly. So thank the things that didn‟t work out, because they just made room for the things that will. And thank the ones who walked away from you, because they just made room for the ones who won‟t.
No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Move forward with gratitude.